Dear Dan... this is the place where faith kicks in and the Backyard Church is not a blog or a backyard,, it is the deepest place of worship and intimacy with the sweetest most gentle lover of your soul and the God of your understanding. May you and yours and your beloved and mother of your children know peace and comfort for your anguish and pain.. May you know you nor yours are EVER alone and that this moment.. , as in in every.. all is well..in perfect balance the autumn equinox allows us the vision and the experience in perfect balance..light and dark all there. The pain is a holy witness to the growth silent and massive.. it takes time for a closer look, to have a moment of pause and to make space...both of you acted as quickly as you good...you could.... no judgments just love..just love just love. and of course..grateful loving kindness.. Healing takes place now..